Many men are too scared to approach a woman they are interested in because they don’t know what to say to her. They have no idea how to successfully flirt with women. They think “I don’t know how to flirt with women,” so they end up not approaching women at all. This is an unfortunate situation, which sadly, many men often find themselves in. They feel that if they were to approach a woman, it would be an awkward and unsuccessful endeavor. However, you shouldn’t fear the idea of flirting with a woman, but rather, it should be something that you enjoy. You can take the apprehension out of approaching women, by simply learning how to flirt properly.
Flirting is Nothing to Fear
The fear of rejection is arguably the number one reason why men avoid flirting with women. While it is natural, as a human being, to fear rejection, flirting should be something that is fun, and if you aren’t successful with one woman it does not mean that you have failed. You must begin to think of flirting as something that is fun and exciting. In order to do this, you have to learn how to flirt with women successfully.
How to Flirt with Women
1.) The Initial Approach: Keep it Casual and Be Fun
A problem that many guys have when flirting with women is that they take it far too seriously. Flirting is supposed to be a fun and playful experience, not a serious one. If you walk up to a woman, with a serious tone and in a serious mood, it will put her off. Instead, you need to change the way you view flirting.
You must see it as a fun opportunity to talk to an attractive woman. Try not to concentrate too much on whether or not your flirting endeavor will be successful. Instead, be in the moment and forget your worries.
Approach the woman that you are interested in and make a few casual, or even playful remarks. She will either reciprocate, which is the ideal outcome, and you can continue to get to know each other better, or she might just give you a short, vague response and not really seem interested. In this case, you need to try to grab her interest, which will be discussed later.
2.) Talking with Her: Exude Confidence
Women will respond better to you if you are confident. Confidence is a key element of flirting and without it, all of your words will mean nothing. If you aren’t confident in yourself, or if you are nervous, women will pick up on it, and it will be a turn off. When talking to a woman, make sure that you are confident in yourself and in what you are saying to her.
Talk authoritatively, but also remain cool, calm and casual. Make her want to get to know you. Don’t act as though you are insecure, and lucky to be even talking to her. Believe in what you’re saying, stand tall, and avoid looking at the floor, or mumbling when talking with women.
3.) Talking with Her: Do not be Arrogant
While confidence is a quality that women find very attractive in men, arrogance is not. Now, there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Arrogance is a huge turn-off for women. This is because men who are arrogant come across as being narcissistic, and more interested in themselves than anyone else. Being confident is a completely different thing to being arrogant, but it is easy to cross the line from being a cool guy who’s confident in himself, to an arrogant guy she doesn’t want to know.
To avoid being arrogant, do not make any bold statements about yourself in a serious manner. If you want to make a few comments about yourself, make them sound humorous. Basically, you don’t want to sound like you take yourself too seriously.
4.) Talking with Her: Pay Attention to Body Language
Body language is such an important part of flirting, and unfortunately most men neglect it. The majority of men worry about what they are going to say, rather than how they are going to act. Body language helps to build chemistry and sexual attraction, and without it human beings find it hard to read one another’s emotions properly. It is important to be aware of both your body language and her body language.
When talking with a woman, let her know that you are interested in dating her by paying attention to your body language. Make eye contact with her to show that you are confident and interested in what she has to say. Stand reasonably close to her, and even touch her arm or shoulder playfully, and casually if she seems interested. Smile, and look like you’re happy to be talking with her. Also, pay attention to her body language. If she is making eye contact with you and smiling a lot, it’s an indicator that she is interested in you. If she touches you, this is a great sign, and one that should be reciprocated.
Being confident, casual and paying attention to body language, are all important to successful flirting. A final tip is to take a real interest in each and every woman that you flirt with. Don’t just talk about yourself. Instead, use the time to get to know her. Learning how to flirt with women is a skill that takes time to perfect, and the only way you can perfect your flirting skills is to simply flirt more. The more you flirt with women, the more your confidence will build and the more likely you are to be a successful flirter.