Approaching women can be a terrifying experience. There is that hint of rejection hanging over your shoulders and women can smell that fear five miles away. You need to grab your confidence instead of fear and approach women knowing what you have to offer – exactly what they want. Crack your knuckles, get a good whiskey in you and relax. Every woman is approachable. Read on and you will learn how to approach women in no time!
1.) The Warm Up
First, warm the girl up to you from a distance. This doesn’t mean stare her down, that is automatic rejection. But pay attention to her and when you catch her eye (and you will), give a little smirk with a head nod. You look confident and can see her response. If she smiles, blushes, turns away but looks back – all good signs. This means you can go over and begin the physical approach. If she doesn’t look over to you, you can still use what you observed to start a conversation with her.
But one thing to keep in mind: When I asked a group of my female friends one night what they hate most in guys approaching them, they told me they hate most when a guy looks at them all the time or consistently but does not walk over to them. It feels to them like a stalker has just found its mark. So don’t overdo the looking over to her part. And it is not 100% necessary to warm her up before approaching. Nevertheless, it helps a lot!
2.) The Physical Approach
I’m sure you have some lines in your head ready to throw out there, but you probably won’t want to use those. Girls can smell the line on your breath before you utter it. You want to relax, walk tall and touch her forearm while you smile. This touch is a little aggressive, sure, but it shows that you have confidence and the intention of hitting on her. It also gives the woman the opportunity to move away if she isn’t feeling it. You shouldn’t need that though – every woman will give a guy the opportunity to talk if he comes across as approachable, confident and friendly.
3.) The Conversation
For most, this may be the hardest part, but there are a couple of methods that will make even the shyest of guys succeed.Blatantly use a cliche and then laugh, mentioning you can’t believe guys use it. Something like “Whew is it hot in here or is it just you?” If you left it at that, she’d be walking away. Adding on a laugh and “what kind of guy uses that?” (Well I just did, but she doesn’t realize it), suddenly she is laughing and you have a conversation starter. Best is to ask her an indirect question though, that’s how girl approach men mostly by the way. If you have a girl coming up to you and asking you something fairly random, there is a chance you have just been approached! You can do the same: “Great band playing tonight!” This get’s even more powerful when you don’t ask her a question, but rather state a comment that she can reply too!
Then, start off with some small talk to convince her you’re normal. This gives you time to build up your inner confidence to start the small flirting. Just keep the conversation light and fun: talk about things in common or subjects that won’t stir debates. Last thing you need is a pissed off chick when you mention politics.
4.) The Flirt
The most important thing about learning how to approach women is forward movement. If she is talking to you for a couple minutes, she is interested. Read her body: smiles, touching you, if her feet point toward you: all signals she digs you. At this point ask for her number.
Don’t forget to call her on her shit. Yes, woman want polite men: open the door for her, say your please and thank you like your momma taught you. But don’t be afraid to call her a dork, nerd or other semi-insulting name if the moment allows it. She’ll like that you aren’t afraid of her. Most importantly, have fun and relax. Approaching a woman is actually a lot of fun.
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