Most guys seem to think that speed dating is for the geeks who need a computer to have a normal conversation. In actuality, you can’t speed date without having a certain social prowess. So if you are feeling desperate, stay away from the quick dating, because even on five-minute dates, the girl is craving your confidence. But you can certainly up your changes by applying these 4 Easy Steps below:
1.) Don’t Consider Rejection
You’ll meet around twenty girls, some of them are going to be gorgeous and some will be duds. The most important thing is not to walk in the door thinking about rejectionbecause that will put a damper on the night. In fact, there is no way that you’ll even want every woman in that room. So if anything, consider that you get to do the rejecting. Speed dating is about making choices and deciding who is hot and interesting enough to take out for longer than five minutes. If you aren’t having fun, you’ll leave with no possibilities.
2.) It is a Conversation
There is a limited time to show that you are a fun and unique guy. And that is all you need to prove – don’t try to impress her by throwing out the unnecessary like you just bought a new Jaguar – unless she says she is crazy about cars. Yes, my car is amazing – but that is something to save for a future date when you actually pick her up in it. Make sure to ask her questions and give original answers.
Her: What do you do?
Me: I work for X company and control their inventory.
Her: What do you do?
Me: Oh, I just dress up as a ninja by night to save pretty things like you. And trust me, Captain America has nothing on me.
The first example is boring and that girl is going to walk away barely remembering a word you said. The second example may be an utter lie (except the Captain America part, obviously), but she’ll laugh and remember my name at the end of the night. Make her laugh and make her smile. That is how you do speed dating.
But don’t overdo that one. When she asks you again, tell her what you really do, otherwise you sound like either a clown or somebody who has something to hide. But when you tell her your job, make it sound emotionally appealing. Instead of bragging, make it sound like you are making a difference in this world.
3.) Be Selective
The most important thing in speed dating will be if you are attracted to her. If not, be polite, have a conversation and mentally prepare for the next girl with the killer legs. Then be even more selective. Chicks are more likely to pick you the more selective you are. They have this need to feel like you choose them out of the many options that you have and for reasons other than their looks.
4.) You Made a Match
When you get your list of matches at the end of the night (and you will), don’t follow up with a boring phone call or text. Send something flirty and playful. Remember she matched you with other dudes too and you want to stay the number one guy.
Most important in speed dating, always come across as confident, comfortable, relaxed and in control. Lean back, take up space, be fully relaxed and chat away.